It Wasn’t A Crappy Year
You Just Had A Crappy Mindset
Bidding 2020 Adieu
We are all anxious to put 2020 “behind us”. The joke is that 2020 was a dumpster fire and we just should wash it up to a shit year.
Apparently the minute the clock strikes midnight on January 1st, 2021, some Cinderella crap will happen and all of our issues from 2020 will disappear? FALSE (for my office fans, please read that like Dwight).
2020 As A Year
“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. ”
Now brace yourself, because this is going to ruffle some feathers.
It wasn’t a shitty year, you had a shitty mindset.
Let that sink in…..
I won’t negate that 2020 had presented some incredibly challenging circumstances. The words “global pandemic” does not read lightly.
I watched as some of my favorite businesses and friends struggle. I watched people fight to stay afloat. Health faltered (heck I have been out of commission for over 2 weeks as my little family had a run-in with the virus). My mindset even faltered.
I miss my family and I miss what I defined as “normal”.
I also don’t want to waste precious time alive being bitter.
Let The Hard Things Be Hard
For some reason, we are taking this entitled approach that bad/difficult/ hard things shouldn’t happen to us.
This isn’t the first pandemic the world has gone through. (This is the first pandemic we have seen where we can still facetime family.)
People have gone through some very terrible things, terrorist attacks, the holocaust, the Great Depression, wars, deaths, and plagues for some reason we forgot that we can go through hard things.
That the hard things make us.
It’s In How You View It
The truth is, everything that happens to us is neutral. We are the ones that label it good/bad/in-between.
We use past programming and conditioning to decide what is right/wrong or good/bad and then fight anything that isn’t what is “supposed” to be happening.
We paddle upstream and then say “life made me jaded”. Well, that is your choice and I want nothing with it.
Up Stream Only Hurts You
Picture this…You get thrown in a quickly moving stream. Heck, maybe you even jump in…
You can stay afloat but the water is moving swiftly. You quickly grab all your resources. You throw on water wings and grab flippers to swim upstream. You kick and paddle. You may even make headway. But eventually, you exhaust yourself.
You’re so tired, you have no choice other than to pick up your feet and float downstream. And guess what… You end up exactly where you need to be. You just took the hard/ long way….
Life is Happening For You
“The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe”
Truth is, life is happening for you, not to you. And when we realize that we have little to no control over the external circumstances, only how you react, it gets easier.
We stop trying to paddle upstream and begin to have fun riding the rapids to where we were going all along.
No Gaslighting Your Experiences
That doesn’t mean you won’t hit the hard parts. That also doesn’t mean you should look for a silver lining.
You will have sticky situations that are difficult to navigate. Everything isn’t sunshine and rainbows, but that doesn’t mean you should be jaded. That simply means you should be extra grateful when things are good and then learn from when things are hard.
I understand some of you are struggling more than others, but just check-in and make sure you are making it harder on yourself with fighting the inevitable.
Life is Happening For You: Check Your Mindset
2020 was hard, but since I choose to believe in a friendly universe, I choose to pivot and try to make the best of a challenging time.
It. was. challenging.
“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change! ”
But try to not chalk a whole YEAR as shit. Change your mindset and see what can change.
We might even remember some of the beautiful times that presented themselves as we were forces to slow down and revaluate. Remember your power to pivot and pause. Remember to practice gratitude.
It’s a universal law that you will find for whatever you look for… Look for the good.
Things will be hard. Things will also be beautiful/ fun/ wonderful/ magical. I could be very wrong, but they say that hindsight is 2020. And maybe when we look back at the ‘dumpster fire of the year’, we will see it led us exactly where we needed to be.
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